Humor is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have, but being funny over text can be challenging. Without tone of voice and body language, jokes can fall flat or be misinterpreted. Here's how to use humor effectively in your chats to build connection and keep things fun.
1. Master the Art of the Callback
A callback is a reference to a joke or topic you've discussed before. It's an inside joke between the two of you. This is an incredibly effective form of humor because it shows you remember past conversations and creates a sense of shared experience.
2. Playful Teasing, Not Mean-Spirited Jabs
A little playful teasing can create a fun, flirty dynamic. The key is to keep it light and focused on things that aren't genuinely sensitive. Tease them about their "grandma" bedtime or their love for pineapple on pizza, not their career or family.
If you have to wonder if a joke is too mean, it probably is. Err on the side of kindness.
3. Use GIFs and Memes Wisely
GIFs and memes can be a great way to inject humor, especially when words fail. They can perfectly capture a reaction or emotion. The trick is not to overdo it. A well-timed GIF is hilarious; a conversation full of them is exhausting.
4. Embrace Self-Deprecation (In Moderation)
Being able to laugh at yourself is a sign of confidence. A self-deprecating joke about a clumsy moment or a silly mistake can be endearing. However, avoid constant self-criticism, as it can come across as insecure.
- Good: "Just tripped walking up the stairs. My grace is unmatched today."
- Not-so-good: "I'm such a clumsy idiot all the time, I can't do anything right."
5. Misinterpretation is Your Enemy
Sarcasm is notoriously difficult to convey over text. If you're going to be sarcastic, make it obvious or use an emoji (like 😉 or 😂) to signal your intent. When in doubt, lean towards clear, positive humor. If you need help finding the right words, our analysis tool can help you craft the perfect witty reply.